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Archive for the ‘Motivational’ Category

Coping with Naysayers

Posted by georgiannasaysjustdoyou on November 7, 2013

Today I was part of a panel at Carole Copeland Thomas’s Multicultural Symposium at UMass Boston. The topic was sharing tips for coping with Naysayers. It was a great morning and it was also energizing. I think we all like to hear about how others overcome and thrive. It helps us move past our “stuck” places. You know, those spaces we get in when we are worried about failure, feel we have failed, or feel pulled at from a million different directions.

Latoyia Edwards, the morning keynote and the evening anchor on NECN was hilarious and real. A couple of her ingredients for success include:
1) Have a dream
2) Outwork your competition
3) Be willing to do anything (even bringing someone a glass of water, tie their shoe, whatever!)
4) Never be too big to talk to anyone
5) Do your homework
6) Go after what you want and don’t let anyone else steal your dream

Chancellor Motley shared some thoughts about naysayers too:
1) Be the smartest person in the room
2) Stay focused
3) Stay the course
4) Forgive but don’t forget

There was a similar thread throughout the presentations. And of course there was some gloating…I mean people were trying to pull us down…and we overcame. Celebrate, but celebrate through continued success and growth, not through punishment of others (but no one says you have to go out of your way for them either).
Here is the outline of the thread:
– have a passion for something
– be prepared and be willing to do anything…no matter how minor a task
– build your community of supporters
– do your homework/research
– get comfortable with your confidence even when others are not
– take risks, put yourself out there
– take care of yourself (physically and mentally)
– be okay with saying no to things that don’t enhance your life

As a speaker on the panel, I shared stories that I have written in past blog posts…there are always naysayers. I have some in my life now, actively working against me. My village of supporters, my advocates are stronger than their voices. I may fail, but if I do, I won’t be alone. I still don’t know what I want to do when I grow up, but I know I will be prepared for new opportunities and I will be in a position to say “yes” to the things I want in my life and that will help me continue to grow.

I don’t have the answers, but I always have thoughts. Won’t you share yours?


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Karma has a way of coming back around…

Posted by georgiannasaysjustdoyou on September 20, 2013

…and that can be a very good thing. I am a big believer in trying to do good for the sake of doing good. Whether or not you are a spiritual person, putting good energy out in the world can result in good energy coming back your way. But I am going to wear my spiritual hat disguised as “karma” in this blog.

I saw this video on Facebook yesterday and watched it four times before I re-posted it on my page. I can’t get enough of seeing good in the world. I can’t get enough of the positive messages that are put out there. I don’t even care that it was an ad for a phone company.

In this very moving video (bring your tissues), a man is depicted as having lived a life filled with acts of generosity. He clearly had no expectations of any return on his generosity. One day, when he needed it most, his generosity came back to find him…

3 Minute Commercial

His daughter, who was at first annoyed by his generosity, as I imagine came at no small cost to the family, eventually got used to it. She was the recipient of the lesson of the karma. Her life changed several times over.

When we are engaged in doing good, we may never know the life changing impact we might have on others. Do it anyway.

“Be the change you wish to see in the world.” – Mahatma Ghandi

I don’t have the answers, but I always have thoughts. Won’t you share yours?

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Are you in charge?

Posted by georgiannasaysjustdoyou on September 4, 2013

Did you wake up this morning and decide how you were going to spend your day based on how you want to live your life? Did each thing you decide to do bring you closer to your personal goals? Did any of them?

It is so easy to get wrapped up in a path that might have been necessary before, or might have even been a choice before, but is really going through the motions now. What is stopping you from making today the first day of the life you WANT to lead?

I am not talking about being dramatic, quitting your job, leaving your family and starting over right this second. I am talking about looking back at what you have done, understanding why you have done them (for better or for worse) and be intentional about your future. Small steps are recommended. Visualize, plan, plot, whatever you have to do to make your dreams a reality. Even if all you do is read a book, write a list, organize…something very small, but always a step forward.

A friend posted this on Facebook today and I thought I would share it with you:


I don’t have the answers, but I always have thoughts. Won’t you share yours?

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I’m Scared…My Friends Are In Charge

Posted by georgiannasaysjustdoyou on June 10, 2013

One day, I woke up, and my friends were in charge… A high school classmate is my city mayor, another friend is a CEO, many other friends own their own companies… Other classmates are my kids teachers.

I am officially scared. This is not because I don’t have confidence in their ability to lead or do a competent job. It is because our parachutes are slowly retiring, or are otherwise not around. It is the beginning of the shift to the next generation. I will own that depending on your age, this may not apply anymore or yet. For those of us 30-50ish, this is our current reality. This is when you remember how you were treated BY others (yes way back in high school) and even more importantly, you reflect on how YOU treated others.

If you have ever been to a high school reunion, you know that people hold on to stuff for a VERY LONG TIME. It is often deep and very personal. If the experience is good, good will often continue to follow. If not, then…let’s just say that the stuff I overheard while in the bathroom stall at my last reunion, tells me that it won’t be good.

No matter what stage you are in on the course of your life, how you treat people matters. And who knows, one day those people you went to school with will be in charge.

My thought for the day: be kind. It is always worth it.

I don’t have the answers, but I always have thoughts. Won’t you share yours?

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Pep Talk

Posted by georgiannasaysjustdoyou on February 3, 2013

From the mouths of babes comes some of the best stuff.

Check out this video on YouTube:

Pass it on…

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2013 Happiness Jar

Posted by georgiannasaysjustdoyou on January 2, 2013

I saw a great idea on Facebook and I thought I would try it. I am challenging you to join me. It’s called a “Happiness Jar” or you can call it whatever works for you. The idea is that you get an empty jar (or box if you prefer) and every time something good happens or you achieve a milestone, you write it down and put it in the jar. At the end of the year, you take out the notes and read them.

Life is filled with challenges and tragedy. We often put too much emphasis on only part of the story that makes us who we are. If we are going to do that, I would like to shift to putting an emphasis on the things that lift us up and give us hope.

Won’t you join me? Here is my jar… Feel free to share yours!

Christmas 2012 045

I don’t have the answers, but I always have thoughts. Won’t you share yours?

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Posted by georgiannasaysjustdoyou on October 27, 2012

You are probably sick and tired of hearing people telling you to vote. I know I am tired of the attack ads that do nothing to help me chose a candidate, no matter which race or which candidate. They all do it. That doesn’t mean that we don’t still have a right and a responsibility to participate in choosing our representatives in government.

Top five excuses I have heard for folks not registering to vote or being registered and not voting:
1) They are all corrupt.
2) None of the candidates stand for anything I believe in.
3) They never do what they say anyway.
4) The system is rigged.
5) My vote doesn’t matter, X candidate is going to win anyway.

We can tell ourselves whatever we want. The reality is that each voice makes other voices louder or quieter. The more people who say what they want and demand it, the more that message gets heard, one person at a time. You do not have to be college educated, run in political circles or even have a job to participate in your own life. You are either at the table, making your voice heard, or you are on the table. Someone else will decide what is best for you. And you can be mad about it, but it will be your own doing.

Voting is one way to make a difference and sometimes that means choosing the lesser of the evils, or picking the one issue that means the most to you and making sure YOU at least count in that vote. Once the election is over, your role is not done. It doesn’t matter if the candidate you voted for wins or not. You have the right and access to write letters, make phone calls or show up at events and let the elected official know your needs and expectations.

It’s true, life will go on if you never vote and never make a phone call. And the freedoms and access you take for granted can and will disappear.

No matter who you plan to vote for, I urge you to show up and be heard. Participate and be a driving force in your own life. Do not let life happen to you.

I don’t have the answers, but I always have thoughts. Won’t you share yours?

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7 Steps to Happiness

Posted by georgiannasaysjustdoyou on March 13, 2012

This weekend I was at a women’s retreat pulled together by The Joy Source (see my favorite Blogrolls on this page).

I would like to share a simple card that was placed in our folders and now sits on my desk.

7 Steps to Happiness
Think Less, Feel More
Frown Less, Smile More
Talk Less, Listen More
Judge Less, Accept More
Watch Less, Do More
Complain Less, Appreciate More
Fear Less, Love More

from happinessinyourlife.com

Need I say more?
I don’t have the answers, but I always have thoughts. Won’t you share yours?

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Support for Occupy Boston…Occupy Wall Street…etc…

Posted by georgiannasaysjustdoyou on October 11, 2011

If you haven’t turned the news on in the past two weeks, you may not have heard that there is a movement to change the status quo…that is, the rich getting richer and the poor getting poorer. In honor of this intentional advocacy for change, I am re-posting an earlier blog about the importance of your (YES I MEAN YOU) political participation. I am not advocating for how you should vote, but I am advocating that if you don’t, someone else is doing it for you.

Read on…and be active! For more information on Occupy Boston: http://www.occupyboston.com

I recognize that there is not enough time in the day to do even the things we feel we NEED to do.  That said, I am going to challenge you to include one more thing.

I have often stated that we need to be active participants in our own lives.  We should CHOOSE our direction and not let life drag us through it.  If we only focus on ourselves, that is not good.  It is healthy to care of yourself, but not to the exclusion of other responsibilities, like family and work.

I am throwing in one element of self-care that would not normally make it to the list.  Be active in your community.  If you don’t have time to volunteer somewhere and don’t have money to give, there are plenty of things you can do from your own home and on your own time.

Be politically active. The consequence of not being politically active is accepting the default choice.  A couple of things anyone can do:

1)  Know what election is coming up:  Municipal, State, Federal;

2)  Know who the candidates are (you don’t have to be an expert, but keep your eyes and ears open…have conversations);

3)  Know what you think about the issues (like health care, education, taxes , etc.);

4)  Vote and if you can, encourage others to vote.

Whether or not you think about it much, elections happen and people take office.  They work, supposedly on your behalf.  They cannot do so effectively if they do not know what you want.  You tell them by voting, by calling and by writing letters.

Be politically active.  If not, you accept the default choice of others.  Their choices directly affect your family and your community whether you want it to or not.  Take care of yourself.

I don’t have the answers, but I always have thoughts.  Won’t you share yours?

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Dealing with Setbacks

Posted by georgiannasaysjustdoyou on May 18, 2011

Most of us have experienced setbacks in our personal and professional lives. Often when we are “in the moment”, we feel that this is disastrous to where we want to be and let the fear of it being a permanent setback keep us from doing what we need to do to overcome.

This is clearly a natural feeling. You are not the first or the last to be there. I am not trying to take away from what you feel or try to diminish the feelings you may have about it. I want to help you keep it in perspective.

No, you do not need to leave town to move past a setback, you do not need to hide and disappear. That won’t help and you will find that there is a network of people who have been where you are, no matter the kind of setback. (I am not attempting to address situations that involve illegal activities as that requires it’s own more complicated response). I do want you to think about past situations where you have felt stuck, depressed, disenchanted with prospects, alone and frustrated. Perhaps you are there now. What have you done in the past that can get you through the present?

Speaking only from my own lens and my own experience, I have drawn from those past experiences to help me keep perspective. When I was finally past feeling sorry for myself, which took longer than I think it should have (especially now looking back), I was able to make a plan.

For me the plan involved networking, getting out there, finding allies and friends. I overstated to myself how dismal my situation was. It turned out, it was really nothing in the grand scheme of things. To me, it was HUGE in the moment. I eventually was able to come up for air, reclaim my positive energy, my optimism, and my confidence. I am so grateful for having had a challenging setback since it taught me empathy, compassion and it taught me not to jump to conclusions. I always reach out when I see others struggling. It is good to not feel alone. I certainly wasn’t, but it took me some time to access my allies.

My thoughts on this…get out there and make a plan. Difficult as it may be, starting is the only way to move forward.

I don’t have the answers, but I always have thoughts. Won’t you share yours? I would love to hear how you have gotten through setbacks that might be something others can learn from…

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