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Karma has a way of coming back around…

Posted by georgiannasaysjustdoyou on September 20, 2013

…and that can be a very good thing. I am a big believer in trying to do good for the sake of doing good. Whether or not you are a spiritual person, putting good energy out in the world can result in good energy coming back your way. But I am going to wear my spiritual hat disguised as “karma” in this blog.

I saw this video on Facebook yesterday and watched it four times before I re-posted it on my page. I can’t get enough of seeing good in the world. I can’t get enough of the positive messages that are put out there. I don’t even care that it was an ad for a phone company.

In this very moving video (bring your tissues), a man is depicted as having lived a life filled with acts of generosity. He clearly had no expectations of any return on his generosity. One day, when he needed it most, his generosity came back to find him…

3 Minute Commercial

His daughter, who was at first annoyed by his generosity, as I imagine came at no small cost to the family, eventually got used to it. She was the recipient of the lesson of the karma. Her life changed several times over.

When we are engaged in doing good, we may never know the life changing impact we might have on others. Do it anyway.

“Be the change you wish to see in the world.” – Mahatma Ghandi

I don’t have the answers, but I always have thoughts. Won’t you share yours?


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2013 Happiness Jar

Posted by georgiannasaysjustdoyou on January 2, 2013

I saw a great idea on Facebook and I thought I would try it. I am challenging you to join me. It’s called a “Happiness Jar” or you can call it whatever works for you. The idea is that you get an empty jar (or box if you prefer) and every time something good happens or you achieve a milestone, you write it down and put it in the jar. At the end of the year, you take out the notes and read them.

Life is filled with challenges and tragedy. We often put too much emphasis on only part of the story that makes us who we are. If we are going to do that, I would like to shift to putting an emphasis on the things that lift us up and give us hope.

Won’t you join me? Here is my jar… Feel free to share yours!

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I don’t have the answers, but I always have thoughts. Won’t you share yours?

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Who Is Deserving of Forgiveness?

Posted by georgiannasaysjustdoyou on October 24, 2012

That is a good question. Certainly I have a short fuse when it comes to injustice of word and deed. Ann Coulter’s tweet this week makes my blood boil. Name calling is bullying behavior, and the particular way she chose to do that was appalling (but bullying always is, right?). So when I came across this response via blog, my first reaction was..go get her! Then I read the signature line at the end and was humbled.

Here is the blog: An Open Letter to Ann Coulter
Posted on October 23, 2012 by Tim Shriver

John Franklin Stephens

The following is a guest post in the form of an open letter from Special Olympics athlete and global messenger John Franklin Stephens to Ann Coulter after this tweet during last night’s Presidential debate.

Dear Ann Coulter,

Come on Ms. Coulter, you aren’t dumb and you aren’t shallow. So why are you continually using a word like the R-word as an insult?

I’m a 30 year old man with Down syndrome who has struggled with the public’s perception that an intellectual disability means that I am dumb and shallow. I am not either of those things, but I do process information more slowly than the rest of you. In fact it has taken me all day to figure out how to respond to your use of the R-word last night.

I thought first of asking whether you meant to describe the President as someone who was bullied as a child by people like you, but rose above it to find a way to succeed in life as many of my fellow Special Olympians have.

Then I wondered if you meant to describe him as someone who has to struggle to be thoughtful about everything he says, as everyone else races from one snarkey sound bite to the next.

Finally, I wondered if you meant to degrade him as someone who is likely to receive bad health care, live in low grade housing with very little income and still manages to see life as a wonderful gift.

Because, Ms. Coulter, that is who we are – and much, much more.

After I saw your tweet, I realized you just wanted to belittle the President by linking him to people like me. You assumed that people would understand and accept that being linked to someone like me is an insult and you assumed you could get away with it and still appear on TV.

I have to wonder if you considered other hateful words but recoiled from the backlash.

Well, Ms. Coulter, you, and society, need to learn that being compared to people like me should be considered a badge of honor.

No one overcomes more than we do and still loves life so much.

Come join us someday at Special Olympics. See if you can walk away with your heart unchanged.

A friend you haven’t made yet, John Franklin Stephens
Global Messenger
Special Olympics Virginia

Notice it says “a friend you haven’t made ‘YET’.”
He is leaving room for her to make amends. He is holding her accountable and raising important questions. How do you argue with his message and presentation? And yet, despite how awful her behavior was, he leaves room.

Do you leave room for forgiving others their bad behavior? I know I don’t do this nearly enough. John Franklin Stephens has given me lots to think about.
All of our behavior is a choice…so is forgiveness.

I don’t have the answers, but I always have thoughts. Won’t you share yours?

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Square Peg in a Round Hole

Posted by georgiannasaysjustdoyou on October 1, 2012

So you started a new job, one you were excited to take on…or for whatever reason…needed to take on. And you realize that it is not a fit. You aren’t motivated to come in, you are stressed about your tasks or lack thereof, and so on. Do you quit? Can you afford to quit? Do you search for a new job and not mention this one?

For some people, where they work is just a job that you do from 9-5, you go home and you don’t think about it. For others, this is a post for you. I know that in my years working, I always looked for opportunities that matched my personal mission and passion. If I was going to give up time at home with my children, it had to be for a purpose that I believed in. Earlier in my career, I couldn’t be as selective. I didn’t have 5 different opportunities to choose from. And with this economy, not many of us have the choice of jobs even with lots of experience. I have talked with many friends, colleagues and connections about how unhappy they are in their jobs.

In the May 2012 issue of Forbes magazine, they reported on a survey that found only 19% of those interviewed were happy with their jobs. (http://www.forbes.com/sites/susanadams/2012/05/18/new-survey-majority-of-employees-dissatisfied/)

Are you one of them? If not, what can you do to change that? In the short term, unless you are independently wealthy or have a partner who can absorb the financial hit, you keep working.

Here are some other things for you to consider doing. These are ideas that have been shared with me that my connections tried and recommended while they were trying to move into a more satisfactory role:
– figure out what makes you unhappy at work and if it is fixable, start the process of fixing it
– if it is not fixable, start looking elsewhere
– given that you are (presumably) gainfully employed, take your time and figure out what kind of work and what kind of work environment would make you happy
– don’t burn bridges where you are
– don’t tell them you are looking (all businesses need to look out for their own longevity – I have seen friends fire friends over knowing they where looking)
– the right time to share your search will come up, you will know when the time is right
– if in your search process you feel or sense something is not quite right in the interviews, PAY ATTENTION, it feels that way for a reason – no sense in leaving one bad situation only to take on another
– do your homework, talk to people who have worked where you are looking (use 2nd and third connections through LinkedIn if you must)

Only you will know if making a move is right. As someone who has been in roles both long term and a couple of consecutive short term roles, I understand the stress of “what it looks like” to leave a job quickly. Know yourself, and keep in touch with strong work connections that can give you good advice and serve as references. Be prepared to explain your choices to a potential employer.

When you add up the hours in a week you spend commuting, working and preparing for work, you realize this is as significant as choosing a life partner. It is partially about income, but the other part is about quality of life. You have a choice in what that looks like, though you may not be able to change it immediately you can move in the right direction starting now.

I would love to hear about your experiences of this type of change. The best thing we can do for each other is share our experiences so that others may learn from them. I don’t have the answers, but I always have thoughts. Won’t you share yours?

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Support for Occupy Boston…Occupy Wall Street…etc…

Posted by georgiannasaysjustdoyou on October 11, 2011

If you haven’t turned the news on in the past two weeks, you may not have heard that there is a movement to change the status quo…that is, the rich getting richer and the poor getting poorer. In honor of this intentional advocacy for change, I am re-posting an earlier blog about the importance of your (YES I MEAN YOU) political participation. I am not advocating for how you should vote, but I am advocating that if you don’t, someone else is doing it for you.

Read on…and be active! For more information on Occupy Boston: http://www.occupyboston.com

I recognize that there is not enough time in the day to do even the things we feel we NEED to do.  That said, I am going to challenge you to include one more thing.

I have often stated that we need to be active participants in our own lives.  We should CHOOSE our direction and not let life drag us through it.  If we only focus on ourselves, that is not good.  It is healthy to care of yourself, but not to the exclusion of other responsibilities, like family and work.

I am throwing in one element of self-care that would not normally make it to the list.  Be active in your community.  If you don’t have time to volunteer somewhere and don’t have money to give, there are plenty of things you can do from your own home and on your own time.

Be politically active. The consequence of not being politically active is accepting the default choice.  A couple of things anyone can do:

1)  Know what election is coming up:  Municipal, State, Federal;

2)  Know who the candidates are (you don’t have to be an expert, but keep your eyes and ears open…have conversations);

3)  Know what you think about the issues (like health care, education, taxes , etc.);

4)  Vote and if you can, encourage others to vote.

Whether or not you think about it much, elections happen and people take office.  They work, supposedly on your behalf.  They cannot do so effectively if they do not know what you want.  You tell them by voting, by calling and by writing letters.

Be politically active.  If not, you accept the default choice of others.  Their choices directly affect your family and your community whether you want it to or not.  Take care of yourself.

I don’t have the answers, but I always have thoughts.  Won’t you share yours?

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You Can Run But You Can’t Hide

Posted by georgiannasaysjustdoyou on December 28, 2010

Not really.  Denial is a beautiful thing, but can only last so long.  If you have something on your plate that needs to be dealt with, consider this a good time of year to face it squarely.  There are only a couple of more days until 2011 starts.

This is why people make New Years resolutions.  It’s good to have a goal and a deadline.  If you can’t resolve it in three days, at least you can have a plan.

Difficult decisions, situations or problems have a way of catching up to you.  And procrastinating can have worse effects on you than dealing with it right away.  You prolong the stress.

Whatever 2010 was for you, make 2011 better.  Take charge of your year and your life.  Be an active driver of your own direction.  Refuse to be led through by perceived and real obligations.  Some things you truly have to do, and some you just think you have to…so what can you do to lighten your load (get rid of some of that perceived stuff) so that you can take on the truly difficult stuff and get it off your plate?  Only you will know the answer.


Here is to a prayer that 2011 will be a year filled with blessings, good lessons, friendship and love!

I don’t have the answers, but I always have thoughts.  Won’t you share your wish for 2011?

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Experiences that change you…

Posted by georgiannasaysjustdoyou on October 5, 2010

“A mind that is stretched by a new experience can never go back to its old dimensions.” – Oliver Wendell Holmes

Ever have a moment where you wish you could rewind?  It could be because you want to re-live an experience, or it could be because you want to erase one.  Neither is possible.  You can try to create future experiences, but what is done is done.  The beauty and the catastrophe of it all is that it has changed you permanently.

I like this quote from Oliver Wendell Holmes because it captures the message exactly.  Life hands you many experiences, it is how you navigate through them that helps you to be the person you are.  You could gloat and brag about something positive, you could cry or lash out about something negative.  All of the reactions you have send a message.  Sometimes you will surprise yourself with your reactions.

The reality is that you wake up every day and each day is an opportunity to recreate positive experiences and an opportunity to move away from the negative ones.  It’s not like you can try to shrink that stretched out t-shirt by throwing it in the dryer over and over.  Once it is stretched out, it is stretched out.

Developing coping skills for negative experiences doesn’t happen overnight and it doesn’t always happen without the help of someone who has been there or who is trained to help.  So many people we know have been through traumatic events and get up every day trying to put one foot in front of the other.  Just know if you are one of those people, you are not alone.  Putting your head in the sand does not make your problem go away and it doesn’t erase the past.  I believe in the power of prayer and the power of support networks.  If you haven’t nurtured yours or even created one, don’t wait until you need it.  It will be invaluable when the time comes.

*I just want to thank my support network for always being there when I need them!  XO

I don’t have the answers, but I always have thoughts.  Won’t you share yours?

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Choosing Your Friends Is Like Choosing Your Family

Posted by georgiannasaysjustdoyou on September 17, 2010

They say you can’t choose your family, but you can choose your friends.  Isn’t it true that our really close friends are more like family?  Who you surround yourself with helps you be the person you are each day, for better or for worse.  Why not make it for better all of the time?

Many of us are fortunate to have tight families where people love and respect each other.  Even those tight families have relatives they would rather not acknowledge or that they tolerate because they are family.  Interestingly enough, I see just as many examples of people who have that kind of relationship with friends.  When asked why they keep them around, some of the answers include that they feel awkward about excluding them because they have been around for so long, they have too many friends in common, they are practically family and they have learned to live with them.


I have been saying all along that we all make choices.  I would recommend thinking pro-actively about who you surround yourself with and if you have someone in your circle that doesn’t absolutely have to be there and who does not add to your life in a positive way…that you learn the art of breaking up with a friend.  Has anyone ever had to do this?  It is not something we normally think of doing.  I mean most of us have either broken up with someone we were dating or we were the ones broken up with so we know how it goes.  That also causes anxiety since those memories are not necessarily pleasant.

It is an amazing feeling when you start cutting the negative influences out of your life!  Try it!  Anyone have suggestions on humane and thoughtful ways to do this?  Anyone have any helpful stories to share?

I don’t have the answers, but I always have thoughts.  Won’t you share yours?

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Posted by georgiannasaysjustdoyou on July 22, 2010

Most people either love them or hate them.  Me?  I have a love/hate relationship with them. Last Spring I read a book called The Checklist Manifesto by Atul Gawande.  It gave me a whole new respect for the concept and a new appreciation for its effectiveness when used properly.

The most commonly used written checklist is the grocery list.  But most of us have checklists in our head.  If you are good at keeping things straight in your head, then you are doing great.  I am going to make a pitch for written checklists for the rest of us.

The most successful people I know have written checklists that I see them refer to throughout the day.  I see people with index cards or paper in their pocket that they pull out and add to if they agree to do something in a meeting.  I see people use their phones/PDA’s to add to their tasks lists and I see people pull out their paper calendars and write to do’s on the calendar.  Each of them has a different system, but one that works for them.

I find that when I get lazy with my system, as I sometimes do, that I make mistakes.  Recently, I was supposed to meet someone for lunch.  I looked at my calendar to make sure I was available and then did not type in the appointment.  I had nothing going on that day.  Then 30 minutes after we were supposed to meet, she called my cell to ask me if I was on my way…  How totally embarrassing.  She was gracious and forgiving, but it was a fire under my butt to remind me to use my system.

I usually start and end my day with a checklist.  I look to see what I accomplished and even write in things that I did that were not originally on the list just so that I can check it off!  It’s soooo satisfying.  And I move things to the next day that I was not able to get to.  Part of my checklist is looking at my calendar to see what I have going on for the next day so that I do not get caught unprepared.  Business cards…check.  Brochures…check.  Gas money or lunch money…check.  What if you take the T to work but you need to go somewhere for an appointment that you need a car to get to?  A simple checklist keeps you straight…but only if you use it!

Keeping on top of things is a big part of keeping a peaceful life.  It reduces stress significantly.  Knowing where you are and what is on your plate is huge.  Even if your plate overfloweth…you know it.

I don’t have the answers, but I always have thoughts.  Won’t you share yours?

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Your Past Does Not HAVE TO Define Your Future

Posted by georgiannasaysjustdoyou on June 19, 2010

Your past may define who you have become.  To you, that may be a good thing, it may be a bad thing, or something in between.  The point is, that each day is an opportunity to create the “you” that you want to be.

I have written in past blogs about personal presentation, self-reflection and how you treat others.  We all have pasts.  We all have futures.  We may not know just how long we have, but we do have the opportunity now to make what we want of it.

I have a friend who stared an apocolist (I like the word).  Whether or not you believe the world will end in 2012, there is something about giving yourself a deadline (another thing I have blogged about) that gets you moving.  Making a list is a way of reflecting on the “you” that you would like to be.

Do you want to live differently than you have?  Do you want to be closer to God?  Do you want to be kinder to your family?  Do you want to be stronger and more efficient at work? D o you want to be a blonde (Megan)?

Just do you!…not the you that you have been, but the you that you want to be!  Start today!

I don’t have the answers, but I always have thoughts.  Won’t you share yours?

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