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Straight Talk Is Not Rude

Posted by georgiannasaysjustdoyou on January 10, 2013

Would you ever go to the store to buy something specific, get to the register and let the cashier charge you for the item but give you something different? Probably not. Likely you would insist that you were there to purchase the specific item, and not half of the item or some replacement of their choosing. In other words, you are able to clearly advocate for yourself. If the cashier refuses to comply, you could simply walk away without making the purchase. It’s not emotional, it’s business.

How often do you do business with someone who does not produce what you contracted them to produce? Sometimes you have a relationship with them – like they are a friend, neighbor, someone you go to church with, etc., and that relationship gets in the way of your ability to be direct with them. Sometimes someone offers to do something for free and doesn’t produce, how do you address that? It’s truly very sensitive…but get over it. Business is business and in making your agreement, both walked into the arrangement with an understanding.

Being transparent and direct is important so that people know where they stand and where you stand. If you are feeling it and thinking it, but not saying it, the noise is present in your interactions with them and can create an uncomfortable dynamic for you, for them or for both of you. Sometimes it is a misunderstanding, and sometimes it is not. You won’t figure that out unless you address it.

It is important to not make a big production out of the straight talk, but be sincere in addressing it. Remember that anger and frustration are emotions and don’t have a place in the conversation. You put on your big girl or big boy pants and deal with it. You can then reduce your own stress levels and add clarity to the situation that allows you to make changes that you need. This could mean they step up or they step out, either way it allows you to move forward.

I learned to do this by watching other people that were good at it and seeing that the result was way more positive than I would have ever guessed AND that the recipient of the straight talk often responded just as matter-of-factly. People often respond to the energy YOU put out.

Do any readers have examples you would like to share?

I don’t have the answers, but I always have thoughts. Won’t you share yours?


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