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Good Advocate for Others, Terrible Advocate for Yourself

Posted by georgiannasaysjustdoyou on March 27, 2012

Are you one of those people who is a ferocious advocate for others? You have no problem speaking up for your children, your friends or your co-workers? When it comes to you, do you find a million and one reasons why you don’t need to say or do anything, you excuse or work-around other people’s bad behavior towards you?

Have you ever asked yourself why? Don’t you deserve the good and fair treatment you are demanding for others?

Here is a small test you can take for yourself to determine whether or not you should consider truly acting on something:
– pretend the situation or behavior is happening to someone else (your child if that is the person you are the most protective of)
– forget about how you are personally connected to the person behaving badly (it is tough, you know you will immediately start rationalizing even while I am
asking you not to do that)
– what advice would you give your friend, child, co-worker?
– are there new avenues you haven’t explored before? are you already saying you don’t really want to stir the pot?

Remember, there are always choices to be made. It doesn’t mean that they are good, happy choices, but choices just the same. So, for example, if you are in a hostile work environment, and you feel it would only make it worse to confront or hold the offender accountable (your boss? co-worker?)…what are your other choices? It could be anything. Ask to be re-assigned if that is an option. Quietly start hunting for a new job. Find a person in leadership who could run interference… I am sure there are many more options. Sometimes it is quitting without another job (but most do not have the luxury of not having that weekly paycheck to make ends meet).

Be your own advocate. You deserve to be treated well and fairly. Don’t settle for anything less!

I don’t have the answers, but I always have thoughts. Won’t you share yours?


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