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Rethinking Stress

Posted by georgiannasaysjustdoyou on December 30, 2010


Everyone has some type of stress in their lives whether it is good or bad.  The bad stress is the thing that turns our necks into bricks, gives us headaches and makes us feel overwhelmed.  Is it possible to reduce our stress levels by changing the way we look at a situation?

Perhaps not in every case, but I bet there are some areas where you experience stress where this is the case.  Start by thinking of a situation that was stressful in the past that is no longer an issue.  Think back to how you felt physically, how you felt emotionally and how you reacted in your behavior.  Now that it is past, could you have changed any of those feelings or actions?  If so, what would it be?

Now make a list of the things that stress you today.  If it helps track your stress over the course of the week. Write down everything that causes you stress, no matter how little.  It may sound over simplistic, but put a dot next to the things that you consider to be minor.  If for nothing else, but to acknowledge for yourself how minor they really are in the big picture.

Then look at the big things.  Compare each of them to a past situation that caused a similar level of stress and ask yourself if there is a way to reduce stress.  So for example, what are the stakes really?  For example, if you ask your partner to do something like take a bin down to the basement because it is in the way.  You ask three times and it is still not done.  Of course you are aggravated, most people would be.  It can cause tension building, or a confrontation or resentment.  What are the stakes here really?  It clearly is not about the bin being moved.  It is a larger big picture issue.  So is there a better way to communicate and get results?  Perhaps your partner is not the one to move the bin ever…  I am not a therapist and not trying to be here.  I am suggesting that there are many ways to look at a situation and either accept things the way they are, figure out how to address them or move past them.  You have many examples in your life already where you have done this.

So reflect on your past experiences to help you with what you are going through now and gain some perspective.  You already have it within you.

I don’t have the answers, but I always have thoughts.  Won’t you share yours?

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