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Comfort Zones

Posted by georgiannasaysjustdoyou on December 18, 2010


What do you think of when you think of the word “comfort”?  I imagine I am a cat and I am lounging on a fluffy pillow stretching out.  The ultimate in comfort.  It feels great.  Comfort Zones can be a good thing, but not always.

Comfort Zones are all about spaces where you are familiar with what is going on and you can accept it.  Many people want to make changes in their lives and don’t because it pushes them outside of their comfort zones.

This is true of relationships that are not ideal for you…jobs that work for you but don’t challenge you.  It is true of really awful negative dynamics in a persons life.  From the outside looking in, you want to help someone make a change, but it is something though they acknowledge it, they do not make a move on.

What you know, even if it is bad for you, is often better than risking something new with “unknowns”.  In my years talking with victims of domestic violence, I periodically heard women say that they were afraid to stay in the abusive relationship, but they were more afraid of leaving.  They would say this because as bad as it was at home, they knew what to expect and how to cope.  Being away from the relationship, they were never sure if their batterer was going to come out of nowhere and they couldn’t be sure what to expect (including the possibility of being killed).  So that is an extreme example, but it is intentionally extreme.

We often would like to reach for something and take a chance with the reward being more challenge or additional happiness.  We hold ourselves back because we risk falling behind our status quo.  Taking chance could actually make things worse.  But you never know until you leap.

Taking a chance is a risk and a choice.  Weigh your options and have a safety net in case you fall.  But there is a lot of possibility in the getting up process.  Who knows, you may just get more than you hoped for in leaping.

I don’t have the answers, but I always have thoughts.  Won’t you share yours?

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2 Responses to “Comfort Zones”

  1. Great post! Personally I believe we should constantly be pushing ourselves to move out of our comfort zone. It is the only way one can obtain any growth in this life. It is unfortunate that most of us accept the rules and limitations that others place on us as we are growing up and these limits which others have set, we adopt as our own.

  2. Any reluctance to leaving comfort zones is merely an uninformed ego announcing, “Warning, danger near.” Nothing changes until we venture out of them…

    Thanks Georgianna

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