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Say What You Mean, Mean What You Say…

Posted by georgiannasaysjustdoyou on December 6, 2010

Say what you mean, mean what you say and don’t say it mean(ly).

I was recently part of a discussion where some women were sharing some marriage advice with each other. The question posed was, if you could give yourself marriage advice based on what you know now, what would it be?

I personally got a lot out of that particular discussion. I thank Linda for this tidbit. It resonates with me.

So often we try to tread around what we really want to say. It could be because we are worried about hurting our partners feelings, or because we are unsure of what their response will be or any host of reasons. Be we often dance around what we really want to say.

I can’t tell you the number of times I have heard “I am not a mind reader” in my lifetime. I can also say I have felt that way and push people to just say it, say what you mean.

So sometimes we blunder it by just being blunt without thought or consideration to the delivery. That can also be a mistake. It may not get the response we want from our partner. The value of what we are communicating may get lost in the other person’s hurt or defenses. So, being thoughtful is important. Being careful not to be mean in our delivery is important. Lashing out because we are hurt doesn’t fix our hurt.

So thank you Linda for sharing that and allowing me to share it with others. It was a powerful reminder of the importance of kindness and thoughtfulness in our relationships.

I don’t have the answers, but I always have thoughts.  Won’t you share yours?


One Response to “Say What You Mean, Mean What You Say…”

  1. Two more additions to the “what they don’t teach in school” list.. Empathy and consciousness…

    Thanks Georgianna!!

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